As a person who has a penchant for Japanese culture, there are some concepts that really seem bizarre for the average American. One of the most shocking concepts is the host club.
Host clubs are nightclubs that are often predatory in nature. Staffed by good-looking men, host clubs are meant to lure in women who are looking for dates. The idea is simple: get them in the club, get them spending huge numbers, and potentially recruit the women to work in dodgy sex clubs.
Host clubs get their female clientele by getting men to go on dating apps. The date “accidentally” forgets that he has to work in the club on date night, and oh, why couldn’t she just come along?
Next thing you know, the girl is emotionally involved and she wants to do anything to just keep that high of emotional intimacy going. It’s all fake, though. The hosts are there to make money, not families.
Truth be told, host clubs are famous for their exploitation, debt traps, and human trafficking ploys. There are a lot of articles on the dangers of host clubs, but the truth is that they’re a shock for a number of reasons.
Host clubs turn the concept of sex work on its ear.
You might be wondering why I decided to talk about this. It’s simple. In the West, the concept of a host club is absolutely bizarre. Women? Paying money to be around men?!
Impossible!
Or is it?
The young women who get roped into host clubs are not ugly. They’re not lonely. They are gorgeous. The customers are 18 to 24, and the hosts end up “loaning” the money to broker girls so that they can get roped into the scam.
For Westerners, the idea of young, gorgeous women paying tens of thousands of buckaroos month after month is insane. So, how does it happen? And could it happen stateside?
In recent months, I had a couple of moments when I realized how lonely a lot of women are.
We all have heard about the Male Loneliness Epidemic, but we’re not really talking about the Female Loneliness Epidemic. Often derided by men because “all they have to do is put out and they won’t be lonely,” the Female Loneliness Epidemic is just as bad as the Male Loneliness Epidemic.
I mean, think of it from a girl’s perspective. Imagine a world where:
You are asking for emotional intimacy, but men don’t even try to pretend to like you. They start getting aggressive and mean the moment that you don’t put out on their schedule, or God forbid, ask for a drink at a bar!
The men you want to date keep pushing you to take your clothes off. There’s no interest in getting you hot and heavy. They treat you like a validation vending machine.
If you decline a man, you may get verbally abused, stalked, or hit. Most women I know who are NOT in the sex industry are actually low-key afraid to date because of their experiences. And if women call men out, they blame women for “choosing wrong,” often minutes after begging women who declined them to “give them a chance.” It’s a main factor of dating burnout.
The fictional men you read about sound so good, you get tempted to get an AI lover. And many women do, preferring the safety of AI to the risk of a real man. I’ve written about this before, but women make the largest percentage of AI companion buyers.
What women want in a partner is treated as being unreasonable, even when it comes to physical attraction. So wait, what women want to have sex with has no bearing on who they should fuck? Yep. That’s society’s message.
Most women go into dating and have to take breaks because they get so poorly treated by the men in the singles market. It’s even traumatizing for dating app mods.
Western women are stuck between a different (but often equally painful) rock and a hard place.
On one hand, most women I know are very horny. Like, they often have a crazy amount of romance novels, sex toys, or even hentai. They fantasize about having a man who makes them feel safe, attracted, and cared for.
In reality, most women don’t feel safe enough to actually go out, date, and have lovers anymore. They may want to be married, but that doesn’t mean they have the guts to actually go out and try to find Mr. Right.
They want sex and companionship, but simply put, they don’t feel like the juice is worth the squeeze. Or at least, the juice is not worth the squeeze to talk to men in the old fashioned way.
Host clubs, at least in their innocent form, make a lot of sense for women in this situation.
I’ve mentioned it before and I’ll say it again: I believe that the fastest-growing group of people paying for sex and dates are women. Women are starting to act as sugar mamas in “no-strings” flings to get their needs met.
No, really, think about it:
The majority of people paying for AI lovers are women. Both women and men are thinking of marrying AI lovers.
Escort agencies are now opening to cater to women. And yes, half of the women who buy male escorts do so for ‘therapeutic’ reasons and a desire for intimacy.
Chippendales’ dancers often find themselves shocked by how aggressive audiences are. The male clients aren’t the problem. The women are.
Host clubs are just another means to an end for women: they get the need for intimacy, sensuality, attention, and companionship they want. It’s just that, in a safe and innocent world, women would pay up then leave when they’re done.
Women have needs, too. And let’s just face it: being treated like a royal is intoxicating and addictive — regardless of what gender you are. Men aren’t the only ones who crave feeling like the hottest person in the room.
I noticed that the countries that have the most successful host clubs all tend to have several things in common.
Japan is not the only country in the world to have host clubs that primarily cater to women. These kinds of clubs can also be found in China, Thailand, and much of Asia.
The countries that tend to have the most success with female-oriented sexworkers or fantasies tend to have the same type of socioeconomic landscape:
The economies are decent. Women who partake in these clubs are able to get jobs, if they don’t have them already. They are allowed to work, hence the ability to blow thousands of dollars on the men of their choice.
Women have a right to walk around on their own and a right to party/club/date alone. This is why you won’t find host clubs in places like Afghanistan or Egypt. Women are generally not safe partying alone in a club in areas like that.
Though they have rights and a fair level of safety, women in these countries often face lots of misogyny. It can be overt or covert, but whatever it is, it often leads to them being nervous around men.
We’re seeing those same factors increase in the US. Needless to say, the idea of a host club might look a lot more attractive to women here.
As the Female Loneliness Epidemic gets worse, American host clubs will start to make more sense.
In the past, men were the only buyers of sexual services or companionship services. This is starting to change as the pool of safe, sane, and consensual bachelors continues to shrink.
Host clubs with male hosts that are trained and groomed to handle women’s needs with panache would do well in these times. Why? Because I don’t think the average man knows or cares what women want.
A host that acts like he gives a damn would make a lot of money and would be able to give women the chance to pursue their fantasies in a safe environment. In other words, it lets women be in control.
Sadly, I also could see host clubs turning into a horrible, exploitative experience for women stateside — if it’s not clamped down on ASAP.
Either way, the point still stands.
Women are at the point where more and more of them are willing to pay money for a benevolent, safe experience with men. This is not a sign of nature going crazy. Quite the opposite. That’s a sign of the economic and social times.
